I often think if we all had a good mentor then life would be a lot easier. It's not always easy to find this person and maybe one person doesn't tick all the boxes.

I always find it interesting that some things have been an issue for hundreds of years. There was a quote in the Hagakure I was reminded of:

Hagakure, Yamamoto Tsunetomo

"Today, however, there are no models of good retainers. In light of this, it would be good to make a model and to learn from that. To do this, one should look at many people and choose from each person his best point only. For example, one person for politeness, one for bravery, one for the proper way of speaking, one for correct conduct and one for steadiness of mind. Thus will the model be made."

I don't remember where I read it - but someone like Seneca talked about if you can't find a retainer/role-model type person then you should read more. To read the books of successful people that you can learn from and build your model from this. On average I think the UK watches more than 4 hours of tv a day which is a lot of books!